Last week, I had a very interesting conversation with someone, that to be quite honest, really irritated me. But, then I do get irritated very easily:) So the conversation started out with Person A, telling me that Person B is getting married. Great, happy to hear it. However, Person A, had nothing but complaints about this. Here is the list of complaints;
Person B, is marrying an Orthodox Jew. (not sure how this is an issue since Person B, is Orthodox too and Person A is a Jew.) So, everyone involved is Jewish, the only differences being the degree to which they practice.
Person B, is having an Orthodox Jewish Wedding, (Also not really shocker here, what with being Orthodox and all), so the Wedding is in 3 months. Person A, thinks the wedding should be several months away, so that more planning can be done, and Person A can have time to make arrangements to go, yada, yada.
Person A, is upset, because the wedding is in 3 months. Person A, was asked not to wear a strap-less dress. Person B, is following all the Orthodox Jewish customs. Like being modest. Person A, doesn’t feel she should have to conform to someone else’s rules, because Person A is “Not Religious”. However, Person A is Jewish. Not Orthodox, very, very, very reformed. So reformed, in fact, that she is really only Jewish on Passover and Hanukkah. That being said, Person A, doesn’t want anyone to ‘judge her’.
Big, Deep, cleansing Breath.
First off, I don’t really care all that much. But, because of Person A’s significant role in my life, I am supposed to. So, I listened and tried to be supportive, while explaining to Person A, why they should just suck it up and do what Person B wants or Person A can just not go to the wedding.
Person A, has a very large amount of tattoos and piercings and has made it a point to stand out, by getting above mentioned tattoos and piercings. I don’t have an issue with them, have a good time, but not everyone feels this way.
I am going out on a limb here and guessing that Person A will really stand out at an Orthodox Jewish wedding. Seeing as how a good portion of the older Jewish community, Do not approve of tattoos or piercings. It has a lot to do with Jewish law and the fact that Jews were forced to be tattooed in Concentration Camps, makes it even a bit more tacky in the eyes of the more strict Jews. Go figure.
So, after listening to these ‘issues’. Person A, states that while they are not ‘religious’ they do believe in God, but don’t believe that God, should be labeled with a name or sex, yada, yada.
umm, that sounds like a religious belief to me.
According to Merriam-Webster, Religious is defined as;
: relating to or manifesting faithful devotion to an acknowledged ultimate reality or deity <a religious person><religious attitudes>
Okay, so now I must be all critical and bitchy here. If you say you believe in ‘God’, regardless of what you want to call ‘God’, you are by default, religious. You may not go to temple or church or do anything that would constitute practicing a religion, but you still have a Belief. Therefore, you are religious. The primary responsiblity of religion is to provide Hope. Or at least, it should be, in my opinion. If you personally, do not wish to follow your cultural heritage, fine, don’t. But, you should respect someone who does. By not wanting to be judged by a group of people, whose beliefs are different from your own, you are pretty much judging them. Which is a bit over the top hypocritical.
If you only occasionally pray or meditate or whatever you want to call it, you are being religious. Even if you aren’t someone who does it on a regular basis. You have Faith, that something else with provide you with Hope and comfort. Alright, I am done with that 🙂